Sabbatical Day #3

I was starting to get nervous. My time away was half over and I was still waiting to see how all of this praying was going to pan out. I’d read the articles and emails and had responded to some of the authors. I’d participated in long SMS conversations on my iPhone. I’d even downloaded a faxed copy of an article that hit my email early Wednesday morning about the need to talk about the “problems linked to Expo.” And then, as I started to type it all came together.

Everyone Has A Solution

OK, let’s create a Safe Zone. Let’s create a task force to review the security measures during the Summer Celebration. Let’s search people coming downtown to reduce weapons and fire arms near the downtown district. Let’s put up a barricade or two or three. Let’s cancel events for the youth to attend. Let’s commission a report. Let’s hold hands. Let’s sing an old Negro spiritual and then how about we, after all of that, we go back to business as usual.

Sound harsh? We might as well. Why? Because none of this is going to do any good until we deal with the REAL issue. You know, the pink dinosaur in the room! Have fathers and the male figures in our teens lives been replaced with public defenders? Are there any fathers besides Reggie Clark, Sr. who are shaken by what happened last weekend? OK, let me put it another way. Are there any fathers who are willing to put aside their salary, titles, degrees, politics, or denomination to look at the continuing violence for what it is. It’s a result of lack of attention. I know paying child support is important to many single mothers. But, paying attention is just as important to a child who is developing a psychological necessity called attachment.

If your life’s ship crashed in the middle of an ocean and you can’t swim, the only way you’ll survive is to grab a hold of something . . . anything. To stay alive you don’t care if it’s a broken piece of the ship, as long as you have something to hold on to. Too many children are facing death by drowning or holding on to broken pieces. They’re faced with doing whatever they can just to stay sane within environments that are saturated by senseless violence.

Time To Step Up . . . For Real!

So, how do we put the pieces back together? It will take father’s to do what they can to learn how to be what many of them didn’t see growing up. Can it be done in one generation or will it take as long to fix the problem as it took to cause it? Look at the life of President Obama and you tell me.

Who needs to step up? Every father who knows he has a child somewhere but has left his responsibility of fathering to someone else must stand up. No one is perfect and all father’s, at home or not, incarcerated or free, divorced or married, saved or unsaved, employed or unemployed, baby boomer or buster, degreed or not, white collar or blue collar, known father or father-less, has an opportunity to initiate a New MENtality.

Every “Old Head” who knows the value of hard work, respect and education must step up in the lives of sons and daughters you know are headed down the wrong path. Every “Other Mother” who understands her value as the consciousness of the her family and community and who is the prayer worrier over the lives of those who’ve forsaken the assembly must keep the porch light on. Every pastor who steps out of the pulpit and into the arms of children who share him or her with their congregation must be willing to be the standard they preach about. Every law enforcement officer who leaves his/her own children vulnerable while protecting the lives of other people’s children must be willing to look at every child as if they were his or her own. Every mother who seeks the best for her children and understands that they must put their child’s need for paternal attachment ahead of their need to get even. Every politician who says they’re in position for the betterment of the community must put their money where their mouth is and stop wasting time and lives lining their pockets, being politically correct, roll up their sleeves and do what they were voted into office to do — Lead! Every business owner who benefits financially from our communities must stand up and be as fearless in educating and employing the children of our community as they are in profiting from our children (In other words, I’m not afraid to make money off of them, but I’m afraid to employ them). Every teacher who invests so much of their time, effort and energy into our children must be willing to be sensitive to the needs of every child and to stand up, advocate and embrace emerging methods of educating children with non-traditional learning styles. And every child who knows there is a hole in their heart that can only be filled by the compassion of a loving, attentive father must step up and acknowledge that what they’re searching for can’t be found in a gang, gun, sex, a baby, alcohol, nor drugs.

Barricades won’t do it. Safe Zones won’t cut it. Tasks forces will put forth a great effort, but their reports will fall short. As strong as Expo’s history is, they can’t do it — alone. It will take godly MEN, FATHER’S, UNCLES, GRANDFATHER’S, and MENTORS to crack the code that unleashes the best in our children, our community and our future. It’s just that simple.

“Is Marriage for White People” Wrong

Pastor G’s Perspective

As a Pastor and an African American man I have a sensitivity toward how we develop relationships within and outside of our diverse cultures. [Disclaimer] I’ve not read this book, I’ve only heard the NPR interview with Ralph Richard Banks. I read a small portion of the book and couldn’t continue reading as the angle of the book veered from the expected. The title is totally misleading and it seemed the publishers may have played on words to get sales. So, here’s your chance to make your determination about the author in this documented interview. Share with me your thoughts at

Marriage Is for Black People‚ Too | Urban Faith


Ralph Richards Banks’ book ‘Is Marriage for White People?’ made him the target of angry critics. Now, the author explains why there’s a link between fewer marriages and the deterioration of black communities.

What’s Hanging From Your Tree?

Galatians 5:22 (Click to Play)

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,”

John E. Girton, Jr., Senior Servant
The Loving Church
An International Virtual Miinistry

John Girton speaking to high school seniors at Whiteland County…

john girton speaking to high school seniors at Whiteland County High School

Time to make IMPACT!

For those whom this is your first email reflection, please be patient with the length of this email.

As I began to write my reflections last night the Lord began to pour his word into me in an amazing way. By 4 am, the resulting document was way too long to email and is still growing as I type this update to you now. The resurgence of the New MENtality Men’s Ministry has been in God’s plans for a long time. I think many of you who know me and have been beneficiaries of some of our past programs know this. For everything there is a season.

It is clear that God doesn’t assign the most talented, the most prepared, the most educated, the most charismatic, the most financially stable or the most connected people to step up and take on life’s challenges. I know this because for some reason God continues to call me when I feel I have the least to offer. Then God does something miraculous. He wraps people around me and resources around me and support around me. I feel God doing that right now through you.

In order for New MENtality to have positive impact it will require committed volunteers, significant public and private donations and contributions, vast community support, technical assistance and an innovative and forward thinking staff of dedicated individuals. But, while much of this is not in place at the moment, I understand that where there’s vision, God will make provision. Therefore, when you pray for us, pray that God will drop into your spirit people who will come to our aid as we launch this program to supply whatever needs we may have moving forward. Please don’t take the voice of the Lord for granted.

In 1 Kings 17, Elijah was commanded to go away in solitude and retirement. While there, he was provided for by unclean ravens that were appointed to bring him what he needed to survive. He could have questioned the Lord as to why these funny looking birds were surrounding him. He could have been skeptical because of the uncleanliness of the birds. However, this word shows us that we’re not to question who God uses to sustain and empower us during our season of preparation. It’s not for me to question, how God intends to use you nor anyone else he chooses to send my way through you. It was Elijah’s obedience that led to the miracle of the widow woman and her son. I believe a miracle is in order for our city right now. I’m believe that obedience to the word of God, hope in a future that is in His hands and not ours and faith in the power of God’s word to change hearts and minds is about to change our city that has performed a BENEDICTION over it’s young people. We’ve already figured out ways to adjust for the mentality of a few rather than usher in a new mentality of faith, hope and love for God, self and others. For if you loved God who made you then you would love yourself, which was created in God’s image. If you love yourself, then you must love your br-other. For your br-other is your -other you. And to hurt your br-other is to hurt yourself. And to hurt yourself is to hurt your creator.

Some of you may have already seen this video. But, it’s worth a look again if you have and certainly worth a look if you haven’t. This is why New MENtality is important (watch the video if you can)
It’s time to make IMPACT!

Get Ready for New MENtality Men’s Ministry. Launching in…

Get Ready for New MENtality Men’s Ministry. Launching in Indiana at the end of 2010

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